How well I remember those days of caring for small children and homeschooling, too. I remember collapsing on the sofa after we put the kids to bed and not being able to move. I didn’t even want to walk to my own bed. I remember being so mentally exhausted that it hurt to look at the TV, let alone trying to read a book or tackle a project. I remember having to teach my children to share, but secretly wishing I didn’t have to. Who wants to share a drink with a sticky toddler? For one day, couldn’t I have my own drink—one without suspicious looking particles floating around in it.
Time Alone in Bathroom?
I remember needing a little time to myself to refocus my mind on the Lord and to pray for more patience. Silly me, thinking maybe I could have that in
the bathroom. But at my house it was not uncommon for someone to slip a note under the bathroom door that read something like, “Mommy, I need help with science, and I can’t find my spelling book, so can I go outside and play?” Or, “Do I have to do math today? Yes? Or no? Circle one and put it back under the door.” Of course, the misspelled words would be embellished with hearts and flowers, and signed with X’s and O’s. As I look back, oh, how I wish I had saved every one of those notes.
Some days I felt like a slave, and I had nothing of my own. As a homeschool mama, one’s life is definitely not one’s own. If you are pregnant or nursing, even your body is not your own. What you do when your time is dictated by the physical, spiritual, and educational needs of the little people who are depending on you. Then dear hubby gets home and would like a little attention—and some dinner.
It may seem like all we are doing is slaving away—day in and day out. Reading the New Testament, though, we see we are in good company. Paul called himself a slave. So did John. So did Peter. So did James. So did Jude . . . Of course, they gave themselves as slaves to the Lord Jesus Christ. Isn’t that what we are, too? Don’t we lay down our wills, our privacy, our lives to serve our families, because we first and foremost gave ourselves to Him? Haven’t we committed ourselves to serving our families because we first committed our lives to Christ? (We could do worse. Remember the old life; being a slave to sin?)
It may seem like you are slaving away, but you are really taking advantage of the golden opportunities that are only available while your children are young. Seize those teachable moments while you have them. In the blink of an eye, your little girl will be a young woman. You’ll watch your husband walk her down the aisle and give her away to another man in marriage. In no time at all, your son will ask you what you think of some lovely, young lady because he believes she may be “the one.” And you will know in your heart that she truly is “the one.” Your baby boy’s heart will belong to another.
You won’t be sorry that you homeschooled your children. You won’t regret the lack of privacy. You’ll get plenty of that later. You’re not slaving away. You’re investing in God’s kingdom, but you and your family will reap eternal rewards as a result.
Rebecca Kocsis and her beloved, Ed, homeschooled all five of their children, graduating their youngest in 2006. They are now the proud grandparents of a small tribe of energetic boys and girls who are their great delight. Rebecca served for 15 years as a PSP administrator and for several years on CHEA’s Regional Advisory Board. In addition to serving on CHEA’s board of directors, she also serves as Support Network Director. She is the author of the devotional booklet Let Not Your Feathers Be Ruffled.
Only in heaven might we be aware of the breadth of significance our lives make. Thank you for writing these encouraging articles. I’ve forwarded this article to a recently-met woman at church whom has children ages 8 and 9. She was home schooling them, but yesterday she said it was too stressful and she’d re-enrolled them in the public morass. She and her children are now one of my mission fields, as for the past month God has had me praying for them.
Thank you for your many years with CHEA – I’m sure we’ve met at conferences over the past 17 years. Nowadays, I’m mainly in the exhibit hall, joyfully manning the Parental Rights.org exhibit.
Wow!!!! All I can say is Wow!! I really needed to read this right now! God’s timing is always “on time.” And this article was definitely “on time.” This article summed up my morning, but I’m going to enjoy this frustration because this is precious time that will soon pass.
And as I remember the words that a great man and great pastor, Chuck Smith, used frequently,”You have only one life that’ll soon be past, and only what’s done for Christ will last.”
Oh, how we need to invest in our children and cherish the time we have with them, all while bringing glory to God, for He gave us these precious gifts.
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above. James 1:17