By Madeline Koch
I’m 13 years old and I have been homeschooled my whole life. So there are a few things I wanted to hit on in this blog post. The majority of people reading this are homeschooling moms, so this is to all you moms out there, including my own.
First of all, through all my years of homeschooling, I’ve noticed my mom is always talking about things she did wrong with us kids. . .things she could have done better. I’m sure every homeschooling mom has had this thought at some point. I’m not a homeschool mom (yet), so I don’t totally understand these sorts of thought processes. But I think I can help from a kid’s point of view.
Mom, You’re Doing Great
Moms, you rock. You moms are the coolest thing since. . .well, since God created mankind! Without you wonderful ladies, our world would fall apart. I’m completely sure of it. Also, you aren’t doing anything wrong. You’re doing way better than you give yourselves credit for. We all make mistakes one way or another, so don’t be too hard on yourselves. There is no formula to “perfect” children. You raise them the way you think is best.
For instance, my mom loves literature, so we do a lot of English, language, and book reports. But, physical activity isn’t as important to our family. So it doesn’t get into our schedule much. But I have learned many other things that I wouldn’t have if I was public schooled. I’ve learned to knit, do origami, read a lot more than normal kids would, and because of my free time (and my overactive imagination), I’m writing a book.
Every family is different. Just because one mom does it one way, doesn’t mean you have to do it the same way. All of your children have different interests, so don’t base the way you raise them off of some other mom’s kids. For example, I love writing and literature. But my big brother Mason doesn’t. He prefers sports and golf to writing, so our family has attended what seems like a billion of his golf tournaments, and now he’s going to play golf in college! Even though I was annoyed by this as a kid when I got dragged to Every. Single. Golf. Tournament. He. Ever. Had, I’m really proud of him (though he still annoys me sometimes). Every child is different, so let them excel at what they do best.
We Love You
Your children love you, no matter what you think you’re doing wrong. I mean, did you teach your kids how to be bad? No, you didn’t. There is no way to create the perfect child. I know I’m not a mom, so I’m not trying to preach to you. But I am a girl, who was born with motherly instincts, as I’m sure you all were.
Ladies, you are doing great. You are amazing! I can’t imagine the hard work that goes into being a mom, especially a homeschool mom. I strive to be a homeschool mom someday, because my own mom amazes me. You can inspire your children. You don’t want them to make the same mistakes as you did, but you can try your best to make them the best kids they can possibly be.
I’ve made a lot of mistakes and I haven’t been the perfect child either. No one has. But I want to try harder to get better and give my mom less trouble. But I love being homeschooled because I have learned so much about God, life, and I have read more books than any kid has, I’m sure. You ladies are doing amazing, and all us kids wouldn’t be the same without you. (Well, we wouldn’t be here without you.)
Don’t Give Up
Even if you think you’re messing up horribly with your kids, you’re really not. God made you ladies moms for a reason. I remember, as a little kid, my mom was around all the time. Anytime I was upset, I went to mom. Mad? Don’t worry, Mom’s got this. Annoyed? Say no more, Mom’s got this. Hurt? Totally cool, Mom’s got this. My mom seemed like she could fix anything and she is the best mom I could ever ask for.
One of my best childhood memories was and is my mom reading to us every night. It expanded my imagination and increased my love for her and for books. She’ll never know how much this memory means to me. It is my favorite childhood experience (Well, other than me racing my brother to see who could get their homework done first.). There isn’t a perfect way to be a mom. Just keep your head up and know that God is helping you, and your family supports you in every way they can.
To my awesome mom, who puts up with all my writing impulses, art antics, insane ideas, book obsessions, my sometimes-lousy self control, my penchant to be easily distracted, and my uncontrollable hair.
Thanks mom, for putting up with a sometimes awful, annoying, silly, weird, strange kid. . .like my siblings.
Madeline Koch is 13 and in 7th grade, an aspiring writer, working on her first novel. She takes piano lessons, loves origami, quilting, and Pinterest. She has three annoying brothers and has been homeschooled K-7 so far.
Well done Maddie. Your mom must be “over the moon” proud of you! I’ve admired her for her dedication to homeschooling the 4 of you. It’s a huge commitment of time & energy. And she’s obviously done an amazing job of it! Give her my love.
Maddie I am so blessed to know you and I am proud of you. Thank you for sharing your heart with us in this post and for being shining example of what a young lady committed to the Lord and her education can do. I look forward to witnessing all our Lord is going to accomplish in and through your life my friend!
Thank you for your words of wisdom!! I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “Out of the mouths of babes”! I know you’re not a babe anymore, Madeline, but I remember helping you go through all your belongings before you left CA. You were so young and sweet!! All parents fail their children, not because they want to, but because we’re all human. I love your encouragement!! It did make me cry!! 🙂 I hope the next time you all come down for a visit I will be able to meet up with you. Thank you for your love and encouragement; we all need it at times! <3
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This is a wonderful piece. Mom’s are definitely a gift to their family. I actually say, “Yay Mom” when cycling past mom’s with strollers. Well written. I’m being called to dinner by… guess who?
Thank you for writing this, it was a blessing to me today! You obviously have the gift of encouragement!
Encouraging, oh so encouraging Praise God for your words! I would encourage you to stay focused on God, know peace and rest in Jesus Christ. My daughter who will be 16 soon also has a wild imagination and desires to write a book. She has always loved reading, will devour a book like nothing I have ever seen before. I would like to ask you, what are some of your favorite books? I am going to have my daughter read this blog entry, to show her where her writing, imagination, love of books could take her. I believe that she will be so inspired by you. Again, Praise God for you Madeline!!!!!!! How much fun it would be to see you blogging more.
Blessings to you and yours beautiful young one.
Thank you for this. I was particularly blessed as Maddie is my daughter. I asked her to write something encouraging to homeschool moms, and she wrote this, which made me cry. Maddie loves all kinds of stories–Narnia, The Sherwood Ring, The Hobbit, Cheaper by the Dozen, When You Reach Me, missionary stories, and much more. She will be blessed by your comments. I’m so glad it was encouraging to you.
Hi, Madeline here! Thank you so much for your comments! I enjoy reading them and thank you for encouraging me to write more. I’d love to! My favorite books are When You Reach Me, Shadow Spinner, The Bronze Bow, The Broken Blade, the Tintin series, the Bible, Cheaper By The Dozen and so much more. There are too many to name. I encourage your daughter to keep writing as much as possible. My advice is this. Don’t ever stop writing. You’ll get there. It’ll take work, but you’ll get there. Write your heart out.